Thursday, January 22, 2009

25 Fascinating Love Facts

I don't know...maybe I have been thinking about Valentines Day or the fact that Peter scared the hell out of me last weekend camping on the Appalachian Trail in a freaking winter storm with out cell or GPS service, but this just seems right today- so here ya go...

25 Fascinating Love Facts
By Laura Schaefer

Love is mysterious, fascinating, and when you find it with the right person, there's nothing better. Here are 25 surprising love facts to puzzle over and embrace.

Love is a many-splendored thing … and a very surprising thing, too. As if you needed proof of that, here are 25 funny little facts about love. Study them, scratch your head over them, and share them with someone you fancy.

1. Men who kiss their wives in the morning live five years longer than those who don't.

2. People are more likely to tilt their heads to the right when kissing instead of the left (65 percent of people go to the right!)

3. When it comes to doing the deed early in the relationship, 78 percent of women would decline an intimate rendezvous if they had not shaved their legs or underarms.

4. Feminist women are more likely than other females to be in a romantic relationship.

5. Two-thirds of people report that they fall in love with someone they've known for some time vs. someone that they just met.

6. There's a reason why office romances occur: The single biggest predictor of love is proximity.

7. Falling in love can induce a calming effect on the body and mind and raises levels of nerve growth factor for about a year, which helps to restore the nervous system and improves the lover's memory.

8. Love can also exert the same stress on your body as deep fear. You see the same physiological responses — pupil dilation, sweaty palms, and increased heart rate.

9. Brain scans show that people who view photos of a beloved experience an activation of the caudate — the part of the brain involving cravings.

10. The women of the Tiwi tribe in the South Pacific are married at birth.

11. The "Love Detector" service from Korean cell phone operator KTF uses technology that is supposed to analyze voice patterns to see if a lover is speaking honestly and with affection. Users later receive an analysis of the conversation delivered through text message that breaks down the amount of affection, surprise, concentration and honesty of the other speaker.

12. Eleven percent of women have gone online and done research on a person they were dating or were about to meet, versus seven percent of men.

13. Couples' personalities converge over time to make partners more and more similar.

14. The oldest known love song was written 4,000 years ago and comes from an area between the Tigris and Euphrates Rivers.

15. The tradition of the diamond engagement ring comes from Archduke Maximillian of Austria who, in the 15th century, gave a diamond ring to his fiancée, Mary of Burgundy.

16. Forty-three percent of women prefer their partners never sign "love" to a card unless they are ready for commitment.

17. People who are newly in love produce decreased levels of the hormone serotonin — as low as levels seen in people with obsessive-compulsive disorder. Perhaps that's why it's so easy to feel obsessed when you're smitten.

18. Philadelphia International Airport finished as the No. 1 best airport for making a love connection, according to an online survey.

19. According to mathematical theory, we should date a dozen people before choosing a long-term partner; that provides the best chance that you'll make a love match.

20. A man's beard grows fastest when he anticipates sex.

21. Every Valentine's Day, Verona, the Italian city where Shakespeare's play Romeo and Juliet took place, receives around 1,000 letters addressed to Juliet.

21. When we get dumped, for a period of time we love the person who rejected us even more, says Dr. Helen Fisher of Rutgers University and author of Why We Love. The brain regions that lit up when we were in a happy union continue to be active.

22. People telling the story of how they fell in love overwhelmingly believe the process is out of their control.

23. Familiarity breeds comfort and closeness … and romance.

24. One in five long-term love relationships began with one or both partners being involved with others.

25. OK, this one may not surprise you, but we had to share it: Having a romantic relationship makes both genders happier. The stronger the commitment, the greater the happiness!

Laura Schaefer is the author of Man with Farm Seeks Woman with Tractor.
http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articlematch.aspx?cp-documentid=10416019&GT1=32023

Saturday, January 3, 2009

So it has been awhile....

I am not sure where to start so I am not even going to try and fill in the blanks for the last few months. I will just say that I have been seeing a great therapist, the kids are healthy and happy and have greatly enjoyed being home for Christmas break and Peter is still trying to fit 26 hours into a 24 hour day BUT that is better then trying to fit 30 hours in...

Things have been hard but we are working on it. I have had to come off of the Avonex injections and that has been scary... I am feeling somewhat better so that is good but the anxiety that comes with not knowing what is going to happen with the MS now sucks...
At least with the Avonex I felt like I had a safety net of sorts...

Anyways symptom update:


Visual Symptoms

Symptom Description
Optic Neuritis Blurred vision, eye pain, loss of color vision, blindness


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Diplopia Double Vision


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Nystagmus Jerky Eye Movements


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Ocular Dysmetria Constant under- or overshooting eye movements


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Movement and sound phosphenes Flashing lights when moving eyes or in response to a sudden noise


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Afferent Pupillary Defect Abnormal pupil responses


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Motor Symptoms
Symptom Description
Paresis, Monoparesis, Paraparesis, Hemiparesis, Quadraparesis Muscle weakness - partial or mild paralysis


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Plegia, Paraplegia, Hemiplegia, Tetraplegia, Quadraplegia Paralysis - Total or near total loss of muscle strength


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Spasticity Loss of muscle tone causing stiffness, pain and restricting free movement of affected limbs


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Dysarthria Slurred speech and related speech problems


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Spasms, Cramps Involuntary contraction of muscles


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Hypotonia, Clonus Problems with posture


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Myoclonus, Myokymia Jerking and twitching muscles, Tics


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Restless Leg Syndrome Involuntary Leg Movements, especially bothersome at night


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Footdrop Foot drags along floor during walking


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Dysfunctional Reflexes MSRs, Babinski's, Hoffman's, Chaddock's


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Sensory Symptoms


Symptom Description
Paraesthesia Partial numbness, tingling, buzzing and vibration sensations


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Anaesthesia Complete numbness/loss of sensation


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Neuralgia, Neuropathic and Neurogenic pain Pain without apparent cause, burning, itching and electrical shock sensations


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L'Hermitte's Electric shocks and buzzing sensations when moving head


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Proprioceptive Dysfunction Loss of awareness of location of body parts


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Trigeminal Neuralgia Facial pain


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Coordination and Balance Symptoms
Symptom Description
Ataxia Loss of coordination


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Intention tremor Shaking when performing fine movements


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Dysmetria Constant under- or overshooting limb movements
Vertigo Nausea/vomitting/sensitivity to travel sickness from vestibular ataxia


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Speech Ataxia Problems coordinating speech, stuttering


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Dystonia Slow limb position feedback


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Dysdiadochokinesia Loss of ability to produce rapidly alternating movements, for example to move to a rhythm


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Cognitive Symptoms
Symptom Description
Depression



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Cognitive dysfunction Short-term and long-term memory problems, forgetfulness, slow word recall


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Mood swings, emotional lability, euphoria



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Bipolar syndrome

Anxiety



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Aphasia, Dysphasia Impairments to speech comprehension and production


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Other Symptoms
Symptom Description
Fatigue



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Uhthoff's Symptom Increase in severity of symptoms with heat


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Impaired sense of taste and smell


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Epileptic seizures

Swallowing problems

Respiratory problems


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Sleeping Disorders



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Inappropriately cold body parts


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Tuesday, September 30, 2008

No more Chemo for now....

I was getting very sick and lets just say I have been on the slippery down hill slope emotionally and physically since the end of June. Finally two weeks ago I could not take it anymore and landed in the doctors sick as hell. Last Thursday they took six vials of blood and today I spent about three and a half hours at the hospital having tests done....oh, joy.
Maybe I will know something sometime next week?

Someone better be drinking Margaritas for me... I sure could use one!!

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Life Goes On

Life goes on.
It happens ev'ry day.
So appreciate what you got
Before it's taken away.
Life will hit you
When you're unprepared,
So be grateful and take all
That you can while you're there.
Get that frown off your head,
'Cause you're a long time dead.
Life goes on and on and on.
Life goes on and on and on.
No use runnin' 'round lookin' scared,
Life could get you when you're unaware.
One day it's gonna come, so you better accept it.
Life will hit you when you least expect it.
And one day when you are gone,
You know that life will still go on.
But no one'll care if you've been good, bad, right or wrong.
Life will still go on.
My bank went broke and my well ran dry.
It was almost enough to contemplate suicide.
I turned on the gas, but I soon realized
I hadn't settled my bill so they cut off my supply.
No matter how I try, it seems I'm too young to die.
Life goes on and on and on.
Life goes on and on and on.

After my come apart the other night where I stormed out of the house and didn't return 'till after 1 am I have been doing much thinking, and as much as I hate to say it...
Peter is partly right- I tend to make things blown out of proportion probably because of how guilty I feel about what my illness has done to my family. I will say that he is 1000% wrong when he said I just want to be the "poor sick women" and I was highly offended by that comment. I don't talk to anyone about how sick I am or try to even find sympathy- I have only ever mentioned having MS to two mom's on Matthew's baseball team (well 1 already knew) and that came up in conversation about how HER mother had MS!

Aside from my dad I don't even talk to anyone in my family about it and after Peter decided to keep a journal to log/count every time I complained about something- I don't even say anything to him about it. OK, he was my only outlet for trying to deal with how I was feeling or what I was trying to work out or just that I was flat out feeling horrible so he caught it all, but apparently it was far to much for him to have to deal with so he started a log- I assume in some attempt to show me how much leaning on him I actually did (again he WAS my only outlet!) then he said it just got to be to much to write down/keep up with so he stopped... I never did see this log, but rest assured I will not be complaining!

He also stated something else that hit me hard-
He said he is not a happy person. He has nothing to look forward to and every time he gets a bit ahead something (medical bills) puts him two steps back and no mater how much he works he is more and more in the hole. He also says that he has to get up each day knowing that today will be the best day I will have as it is a continuous progressive downhill ride I am on.... anyways that is hard for him to deal with. Gee just imagine how I feel....
Anyways my funk continues... I am in all honestly having a hard time trying to figure out how to get out of here, but hey.... LIFE GOES ON


Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Just the way it is



Well it seems we have reached some sort of "agreement"

I don't mention the word "MS" or Multiple Sclerosis or anything to do with it and he will not get all huffy and pissed off that he has to work extra hard to pick up my slack.

So there you have it- I have never felt like more of a waste of oxygen then I have in the last few weeks. I have NO spousal support emotionally what so ever and VERY limited physical support...as in if I fall and can't get up then after being visibly aggravated I will get help, but other then that all bets are off as far as rubbing or stretching out a spasm, getting dressed, or any other general care for myself issues go. I am on my own and it is very lonely in here. Yes, I have friends- I just can't bring myself to call them up and "chat" about it. They have their own life and children and husbands to think about....they don't need all my drama added to it. Besides, that would require me getting out of bed/staying awake long enough to actually make a call.... but honestly even if I did I am sure all I would do is just cry. I would much rather sleep or eat something horribly bad for me then pass it on to someone else- Like I said they have their own problems- they don't need mine. Soooo BLAH... I am not even sure where to go from here...
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